Thursday, February 16, 2012
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
SECOND TIME AROUND...MAYBE
Is Vanessa Bryant giving Kobe a second chance?
On Valentine's Day, Vanessa Bryant, Kobe's ex-wife, attended her first game of the season at Staples Center. Last time this couple was in the news it was because just 61 days ago, Vanessa filed for divorce citing "irreconcilable differences." She won $75 million and three mansions in a divorce settlement.
We’re all buzzing about the possibility of a reconciliation and Vanessa Bryant was a trending topic on Twitter yesterday.
Vanessa waited outside the Lakers' locker room after the game to see Kobe. And they were spotted sharing a Valentine’s Day smooch!
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
DARK CHOCOLATE...
Best compliment of the day...
Of course I'm wearing RED and I stop at the gas station and a man holds the door open for me and says..."Cupid must be real because I'm looking at a beautiful box of dark chocolate!"
WHY ARE YOU SINGLE?
Three Big Reasons You’re Still Single
By Jeannie Assimos
What determines whether you find the love of your life or end up alone? This question haunts even the most confident women. You’re not alone. It comes up when you’ve spent years in and out of failed relationships and you finally reach the point of wanting to give up on love.
If you ask this question in the form of a complaint, like “why me?” you won’t get a satisfactory answer. But if you ask it with an open mind and in the spirit of wanting to know the truth, it can make the difference between finding the love of your life—or being alone.
Here are three possible reasons why you might ask “Why am I still single?” One or two of them may apply to you, or maybe all three. Be ruthlessly honest with yourself when you consider them. You, like me many years ago, may have some “blind spots” that make it hard for you to see the truth of your situation. If any one of these strikes a nerve but you’re not sure, get some objective feedback or ask a friend what they think so you can move forward.
If you ask this question in the form of a complaint, like “why me?” you won’t get a satisfactory answer. But if you ask it with an open mind and in the spirit of wanting to know the truth, it can make the difference between finding the love of your life—or being alone.
Here are three possible reasons why you might ask “Why am I still single?” One or two of them may apply to you, or maybe all three. Be ruthlessly honest with yourself when you consider them. You, like me many years ago, may have some “blind spots” that make it hard for you to see the truth of your situation. If any one of these strikes a nerve but you’re not sure, get some objective feedback or ask a friend what they think so you can move forward.
Three reasons you may be asking, “Why am I still single?”:
1. You’re ambivalent about entering into a committed, intimate relationship with a man.
As much as you think you want a partner, you may find it hard to leave your comfort zone of being single. I know you don’t think you’re comfortable, but we tend to go for what’s familiar. Ambivalence will prevent you from taking the emotional risks necessary to get close enough to a man to love him and let him love you. It will keep you from fully committing to finding a partner, and creates all kinds of sneaky ways to ruin your relationships. If left unchallenged, it will keep you falling for unavailable men or with acts of self-sabotage such as drinking too much on a first date. Ambivalence will make you believe all kinds of excuses and rationalizations as to why you haven’t met the right man, and it will keep you in a state of blaming rather than taking responsibility.
2. You make finding a man more important than finding happiness.
It’s a cliche but it’s true: You can’t depend on anything outside of yourself to make you happy. Believe me, if you tend to be a negative woman who always sees the glass as half empty, nothing is going to change when you find Mr. Right and marry him.
Yes, you might have a few months of intoxication when you are still in the honeymoon stage of the relationship. But soon, as the headiness wears off and you start to see the real man with all of his imperfections, you’ll no longer be able to get the “happiness fix.” Your negative attitude will creep back in and you’ll be stuck feeling miserable again.
3. You don’t value yourself enough to set boundaries.
Every relationship you enter into requires some form of boundaries. Whether it’s your hairdresser, your doctor, or your mother, there are “rules” that are implied in the nature of a relationship. If you let people—men in particular—get away with breaking the rules you need to feel safe and loved, you’ll end up floundering emotionally and be full of resentment.
1. You’re ambivalent about entering into a committed, intimate relationship with a man.
As much as you think you want a partner, you may find it hard to leave your comfort zone of being single. I know you don’t think you’re comfortable, but we tend to go for what’s familiar. Ambivalence will prevent you from taking the emotional risks necessary to get close enough to a man to love him and let him love you. It will keep you from fully committing to finding a partner, and creates all kinds of sneaky ways to ruin your relationships. If left unchallenged, it will keep you falling for unavailable men or with acts of self-sabotage such as drinking too much on a first date. Ambivalence will make you believe all kinds of excuses and rationalizations as to why you haven’t met the right man, and it will keep you in a state of blaming rather than taking responsibility.
2. You make finding a man more important than finding happiness.
It’s a cliche but it’s true: You can’t depend on anything outside of yourself to make you happy. Believe me, if you tend to be a negative woman who always sees the glass as half empty, nothing is going to change when you find Mr. Right and marry him.
Yes, you might have a few months of intoxication when you are still in the honeymoon stage of the relationship. But soon, as the headiness wears off and you start to see the real man with all of his imperfections, you’ll no longer be able to get the “happiness fix.” Your negative attitude will creep back in and you’ll be stuck feeling miserable again.
3. You don’t value yourself enough to set boundaries.
Every relationship you enter into requires some form of boundaries. Whether it’s your hairdresser, your doctor, or your mother, there are “rules” that are implied in the nature of a relationship. If you let people—men in particular—get away with breaking the rules you need to feel safe and loved, you’ll end up floundering emotionally and be full of resentment.
Boundaries, like discipline, create freedom. If you don’t have standards in your relationships, you’re at the mercy of someone else’s bad behavior. “Why am I still single?” is a good question to ask yourself and you shouldn’t be afraid of the answer. Facing what has been holding you back is the only way to move yourself forward to get the love you desire.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Dating Advice from Dr. Ronn
"Go ahead and admit it! You’re convinced that only loose, scandalous folks go out with more than person at a time. You assume that a few dates with someone kind of nice, somehow means that you owe each other exclusivity – so seeing others too, would mean you’re “cheating”. Untrue! Actually, all you’ve got is an assumption (a totally unrealistic one, at that).
Never forget: There’s no such thing as an “unspoken commitment to exclusivity.” After informally dating someone for a time, an interested man (who now wants to date you—and you only—will ask (with actual words) for an exclusive, monogamous relationship. And, an interested woman (who wants to date him—and him only—will honestly accept or decline. Until then, neither of you owes that obligation to the other. Keep your dating options open. By aiming to increase the number of people you meet and go out with, you’ll increase your chances of eventually connecting with the “just-right” soulmate you’ve prayed for all along."
Friday, February 10, 2012
Beyonce and Jay-Z release first photos of Blue Ivy!
Now if this doesn't make you want a baby nothing will...
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Dating advice from a man of God...
As a single woman, I am OFTEN given dating advice. Sometimes it's by other single people, divorced people and sometimes happily married people. Today I made a post on Facebook and a Godly man responded with what may very well be the BEST DATING ADVICE EVER…
ME: As a single woman who would like to be married to a Godly man, I can tell you that finding a man is EASY, finding a GOOD man is EASY...finding a GODLY man gets harder everyday!
PHIL: Slow down and let the Lord Lead you. Turn on the God light so that you can see where you are going. Stay in the Word. The deeper you are in the word the brighter your God light will shine. The brighter your God light is the more ungodly people will run to the devils place. Remain in FAITH. Without Faith it is impossible to please God.
Phil and Sonya Upchurch are successfully married and they will be sharing their story of “LOVE MADE EASY” Saturday, February 25 from noon -1:00 pm. www.kcwgth
Thursday, February 2, 2012
THREE WORDS EVERY WOMAN LONGS TO HEAR...
HIM: What are you doing?
ME: Cooking dinner?
ME: Cooking dinner?
HIM: What are you cooking?
ME: Omelet with carrots, zucchini, cauliflower and peppers and southwestern potatoes.
ME: Omelet with carrots, zucchini, cauliflower and peppers and southwestern potatoes.
HIM: I hope you’re not on a diet.
Me: Of course I am. Gotta get back to my fighting weight.
Me: Of course I am. Gotta get back to my fighting weight.
HIM: Don’t lose weight …you’re fine just the way you are.
Me: <<Smiling>>
Me: <<Smiling>>
He said the three words every woman wants to hear…”Don’t lose weight”!!
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