GOOD + BETTER = GREAT!

8 Ways To Be A Better Husband

by Valerie Wooten

1. If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It
The same things you did to get your mate, are the same things you need to do to keep your mate. In the beginning, you might have been going to the gym on a regular basis, making sure your shoe game was tight, or spritzing on your favorite cologne. Continue doing these things. You should still want to look good for your wife. You wouldn’t want her doing double takes at someone else, would you?

2. Surprise, Surprise
Surprise your wife every now and then. Flowers and candy are always nice gestures. How about a handwritten letter telling her how you feel? Or sweet little notes like “I love you” or “You’re beautiful.” Put them in places she frequents every day like on the bathroom mirror, on her steering wheel, or slip it into her purse. Take weekend getaways. It doesn’t have to be a full vacation but a mini vacay like to a local bed and breakfast or spa day for the both of you. It’s the little things that matter. It doesn’t have to be a big production all the time.

3. Help Out
All the household duties shouldn’t be solely one person’s responsibility. Fold the clothes if they need to be folded, help put the kids to bed every now and then, cook dinner sometimes. And do this without your wife having to ask you to do it. Helping each other out is a part of what marriage is about. Your service will be appreciated.

4. Pay Attention
Knowing your partner is a very important component in marriage. So you have to be tentative to what your wife wants and needs. If she needs quiet time, be willing to give it to her. Sometimes a woman needs space to herself. That could be just simply wanting to take a bubble bath and being alone for an hour. When she comes home from work, ask her how her day was and actually listen! There’s nothing worse than having to repeat yourself.
Pay attention to what’s going on in your wife’s life—what her work environment is like, how her social life affects her, if she’s worried about a family member. If there is something going on, try to alleviate her stress level. A nice massage or foot rub goes a long way!
Compliment your wife. This requires you to have to pay attention to her. Compliment her on that new shirt she just purchased or the new perfume she’s wearing. The point is to make your wife feel that you are paying attention to her.

5. 2 Become 1
The bond that you and your wife share is one that should never be broken. Sometimes life can come in between a husband and wife but don’t let that happen. Don’t let anything come in between you two–whether it’s work, friends or family. You made a commitment to each other and that bond should be so solid that nothing can break it.

6. Leave work at work
When you come home from work, your family should get your attention. It’s understandable if you have to bring work home sometimes but you shouldn’t neglect your wife. You have to find that balance; listening to your wife’s cues will tell you when she feels ignored.

7. Communicate!
Communication is the most important element of marriage. You have to tell your spouse how you’re feeling. She might not always take the hint. If you don’t tell her then how would she know? You can’t expect her to read your mind. If you’ve communicated to her in the past and she still doesn’t understand you, sometimes it’s not what you say but how you say it. Watch your approach.

8. Swallow Your Pride
You’re not right all the time. It’s not “my” marriage, it’s “our” marriage. Listening to your wife and letting your wife know that you’re listening is important. Yes you are the man of the house but she has a say-so in important matters of the house as well. Respect your wife. She’s there to help you, not hurt you. Don’t be afraid to let her know that you need her—because you do.

Men are not turned off by SUCCESS...but men may be turned off by YOU!

Are Black Men Afraid of Successful Women?

Written by Dr. Boyce Watkins

The always interesting and entirely lovable Demetria Lucas wrote a very nice article on TheRoot.com asking whether or not men avoid successful women. I had to chime in on this one. For the busy and successful women who are reading this, I will try to save your valuable time and cut to the chase. Your success may be standing in the way of you finding a meaningful relationship, but not for the reasons you might think. The success itself is not your primary impediment to reaching your goals, but rather, it is the way success may affect your personality that could be the problem.

Here are the reasons why some men might choose to avoid some (not all) successful women:

1) If you are emotionally selfish: Busy people can sometimes have a habit of always believing that they are the most important person in the room. The issues on their mind are always more meaningful than your own, and how they feel tends to matter a lot more than what you’re going through. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with a person who will talk all day about her problems and then suddenly have to hang up when you start talking about yours? Well, that’s what it’s like to date the self-important professional who has never learned to reflect or take responsibility for their dating challenges. In some cases, she was always the special girl in her family, the one who could bathe in the awesome power of perpetual narcissism. Daddies brag about spoiling their daughters, but the sad truth is that there is nothing good about something being spoiled, whether it be a piece of fruit or a human being.

2) If you think that your job, shape and beauty automatically make you a great catch: Looking good goes a long way toward getting a man’s attention. But that’s like saying that newspaper starts a big bonfire. The paper might get the fire going, but it doesn’t KEEP the fire going (a sustainable fire can only be built with wood). I don’t care if you look like Beyonce, the fact of the matter is that it is your inner beauty that keeps a man coming back. Men who have lots of options see pretty girls every day. What is rare is a woman who works to be a consistently beautiful, giving and attentive human-being. Unfortunately, inner beauty is not promoted among black women, the same way that men are taught to live empty lives in search of material possessions as false validations of their self-worth.

3) If you fail to see the value of elevating your man: I once had a friend who didn’t feel that it was her job to validate her man to make him feel good about himself. “I ain’t got time to be stroking his ego,” she would say. I then asked her if it mattered if her man took the time to tell her that she was beautiful, to make her feel sexy or to remind her that she is a remarkable woman. The point is that all of us look to our partners to make us feel better, whether it is physically or emotionally. Oddly enough, many people unwilling to stroke a man’s ego are all too willing to stroke his sex organs. Making a man feel better about who he is can go a long way toward capturing his heart, so yes, it’s OK to give your man daily reminders that he’s a king, that you respect him and that you love him more than anything. Affection and affirmation are not a crime or sign of weakness; they actually open the door for you to receive the same thing in return. If you give love, you will receive it. The same thing is true for war. So be careful about coping attitudes when you don’t get what you want.

4) If you work too damn much and never make your mate a priority: Many of the successful doctors, lawyers and Indian chiefs of the world don’t seem to realize that your relationship will never run on auto-pilot. There is a big difference between someone agreeing to be with you vs. your actually earning that person’s loyalty by being a solid, loving and reliable mate. A man does not want to feel that he is some kind of accessory that you have to have in order to complete your collection, like a Coach Purse or a pair of Gucci shoes. But when men see women high-fiving each other after sealing a wedding date, you sometimes wonder if the ceremony is more important than the person.
Treating your man as a pet that you claim, constrain and neglect is a great recipe for disaster. So, after you finish your 80 hour work weeks, canceling one date after another and turning down his requests for affection, don’t be surprised if you come home from work one day and see that he’s packed up his sh*t.

5) If you make him feel bad for not being a baller like you: One thing that scares the heck out of men is a high-maintenance woman. In a world where black men are more likely to be unemployed than any other group in the United States, the last thing you want is a woman who thinks that a diamond necklace on her birthday is simply par for the course. Presenting yourself as a good teammate and opening the door for him to be somewhat vulnerable can make it easier for you to get the loyalty that you deserve. No man wants to get his butt kicked by both the white man and his wife.
I am not an expert on what all men want, but if Steve Harvey can give relationship advice, then I can too. I’ve also been a man for quite a while, and I’ve talked to a lot of brothers when women aren’t around. My precise conclusion is that when it comes to the opposite sex, most of us just don’t get it.
But one thing that’s true is that whether you are making a financial investment or an investment of the heart, you usually get what you give. What’s also true is that investing the wrong assets into the wrong places is a great way to end up broke (or broken). So, as you try to reach your relationship goals, you may want to read books about the opposite sex, find out what they are seeking and learn how to deliver the things that will help you to reach your goals. This is a lot more effective than wasting your life on simple trial and error.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Professor at Syracuse University and founder of the Financial Lovemaking. 

LOOK INTO YOUR CRYSTAL BALL...

5 Signs He'll Be Good in Bed

By Dating Diva Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D. for GalTime.com

 

So you've got a new beau and you're trying to decide if you should take your budding bond to the next level... in the bedroom. Sure, he's hot and the scenes playing out in your head make you want to high tail it to your place. But is this guy really sex-mate material?

Great sex, at least the kind you want to have more than once with the same person, isn't just about having skills. That kind of hotness between the sheets grows cold fast. Really memorable partners are all about tuning into your needs and being willing to please in all the right places.

Thankfully, there are some signs that your new love interest is worthy of becoming your next lover. Let's see if your new hunk looks promising for the role.

Sign 1: He's a Gentleman

In love and sex, it's the small things that matter. Does he open doors for you, pull out your chair, call to check in about your day, remember to ask about your big work project? All are signs that he's thinking about you. If he's a thoughtful gentleman out of the bedroom, you can bet that treatment will continue once the lights are out.

Sign 2: He Knows How to Touch You

Guys who are into sex purely for sex's sake often save touching for one purpose, to score. A great lover is one who values sensuality both in and out of the bedroom. So if you're seeing a guy who touches your hand across the table at dinner, feels the small of your back as you walk through a hallway or holds your hand as you stroll through the park... that guy will know how to touch all of you.

Sign 3: It's Not Always About Him

For some men, it's always about them. What happened in their day, where they want to eat and what movie they want to see. Can you see where this is heading? But a guy who asks you about your day first, goes to your favorite restaurant even if he's not a huge fan of that type of food... or cuddles on the couch for a chick-flick? Now that guy will make your happiness a priority both in and out of bed!

Sign 4: He's Not in a Rush

Guys who are more interested in your body than in you, well, they want to get in the sack in a rush. Join him there too quick and you'll be a flash in his pan. A man who is truly interested in being your lover knows that you are worth a little wait. He actually wants to savor the build up because he plans on sticking around. So, if

he says, "Let's wait" or "I'm not in a rush," know that he's willing to invest in his lovemaking.

Sign 5: He Makes You Feel Beautiful

Mind blowing sex is all about feeling free to be your uninhibited self because you know that your partner appreciates you. The kind of man who will make you feel that way is free with his compliments-- building you up with each little thing he notices about you that he likes. Even the way he looks at you will make you feel smart, sexy and attractive. That kind of chemistry smolders in bed and bursts into flame.

How does your guy stack up? By paying attention to how he treats you out of bed, you'll be clued into how he's apt to treat you in bed. If all systems are a go, he just might make your next best lover.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/5-signs-hell-good-bed-133300953.html

MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON AND 90% OF YOUR PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED!

Finding and Keeping A Life Partner by Dov Heller, M.A.

Rule # 1 – MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON AND 90% OF YOUR PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one
wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it
appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding
Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married,
they’ll say: ‘We’re in love’; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make
when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.
Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth
here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a
good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will
come. Let me say it again: ‘You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love
alone’; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask
yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20
or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to
do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to
share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you
can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a
marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line;
marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this
person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling
safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having
good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’; or hurt
for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines
an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your
thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you
feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you
test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a
regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of
mine defines a good person as ’someone who is always striving to be good
and do the right ‘;. So ask about your significant other: What do they do
with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic
person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are
dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking
comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal
comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before
walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the
ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person
pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they
wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this, think about
the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice
to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their
parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they
don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you
do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others
poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person
after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of
trying to ‘improve’ them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts
it: ‘You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the
worse’ If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then
you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key
is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It
pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask
questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a
great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on our finger, you don’t
want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

Another perspective…There are some people in your life that need to be
loved from a distance.. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let
go of or at
least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going
anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay
attention…Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and
which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which
ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better
or feel worse? Which ones don’t appreciate you? Which ones make you feel
good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth
around you…the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in
the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, ‘Before you get married, keep both eyes open,
and after you marry, close one eye’; Before you get involved and make a
commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance,
pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or
that what you see as faults isn’t really that important. Do you bring out
the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other,
or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the
relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust,
past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t
make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem,
spiritual discernment, and ‘a life’; you won’t find yourself making someone
else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking
status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.

Dov Heller, M.A. www.ClarityTalk.com

WHAT DO MEN REALLY THINK??

Glamour's 2012 Guy Survey: 1,000 Men Fess Up To the Shocking, Sexual and Occasional Sweet Things They Do

by Amy Spencer

 

 

OK, let's get right to the good stuff. Where, of these places, have you masturbated? (Select all that apply.)

At work: 31%

While visiting my parents' house: 31%

At a party: 10%

While driving: 24%

None of the above: 48% (to which we say thank you, cubicle mate, for not going there!)

When a woman gets naked in front of you, what's the first part of her body you notice?

Her breasts: 52%

Her belly: 11%

Her vajayjay area: 10%

Her thighs: 6%

I'm too gobsmacked by the whole naked thing to focus on any one area: 21%

And when you're naked, what are you most self-conscious about?

My stomach: 33%

My penis size: 18%

My hair: 7%

My birthmarks or scars: 4%

I don't think about me—I'm looking at her: 38%

What would you say is your greatest fear?

Death: 23%

Poverty: 36%

Commitment: 5%

Speaking in public: 10%

Failing at work: 13%

Never finding love: 13%

If a woman could be only two of these qualities—good-looking, smart, caring and fun—which two would you choose?

Good-looking and smart: 26%

Good-looking and caring: 30%

Good-looking and fun: 15%

Smart and caring: 14%

Smart and fun: 8%

Caring and fun: 7%

You're most likely to zone out when a woman talks about (select all that apply):

What happened to her at work today: 18%

Clothes, shopping or shoes: 42%

Her friends' life and dating dramas: 33%

Celebrity gossip: 41%

Plans she wants to make with me: 8%

A gripe she has with me: 14%

Any subject raised during the game: 23%

You text her. She texts right back. She is:

Efficient: 85%

Desperate: 15%

If you have to buy your girlfriend tampons...

I don't mind dropping them on the counter and carting them out. It's natural!: 67%

I'll probably buy some beer and beef jerky with them to distract the cashier: 16%

Oh, I won't be buying her any tampons: 17%

What's the biggest lie you've told a woman to get her into bed?

That I had a better job than I did: 11%

That I had more money than I did: 17%

That I cared about her more than I did: 55%

That I was single: 17%

Forget what women want for a second. How long do you want sex (foreplay not included) to last each time?

Less than 5 minutes: 3%

5 to 9 minutes: 9%

10 to 14 minutes: 16%

15 to 19 minutes: 19%

20 to 29 minutes: 18%

30 to 39 minutes: 14%

A solid hour: 21% (Love the ambition, guys, but...ouch!)

You're on a dinner date. What's the sexiest thing to hear her order if everything costs the same?

A salad: 11%

A steak: 38%

A stiff drink: 13%

Dessert first: 7%

Don't care: 31%

Her phone is sitting on the table while she's in the bathroom, and a text comes in. Do you read it?

Yes: 24%

No: 76%

You're a straight man who gets hit on by a dude. You:

Find it funny—or flattering: 56%

Get weirded out: 44%

If you could be Brad Pitt for a day, you'd most want to:

Have sex with Angelina Jolie as many times as possible: 38%

Use my fame to have sex with as many other women as possible: 37%

Hang with Clooney: 11%

Go fix New Orleans: 8%

Play with the kids: 6%

Photo: Getty Images

Would you break up with a girl if your friends didn't like her?

Yes: 16%

No: 84%

Would you break up with a girl if your mom didn't like her?

Yes: 18%

No: 82%

What is your attitude toward women's bra straps showing?

Love it: 42%

Hate it: 21%

Never notice it: 37%

What can a girlfriend/wife definitely not joke about with you? (Select all that apply.)

My mom: 16%

My penis: 21%

My finances: 12%

My bedroom skills: 18%

My sports team: 6%

She can joke about whatever she wants. It's all good with me: 53%

Which male fashion trend have you tried or would you be willing to try in the future? (Select all that apply.)

Sandals with socks: 21%

Dress shoes without socks: 16%

Suit slacks cropped just above the ankle: 8%

A murse (that's a man purse, in case you didn't already know): 8%

Bright-colored pants: 15%

Man Spanx: 5%

A super-skinny tie: 22%

Jeggings (à la Russell Brand): 2%

None of the above: 39%

Which formerly unmanly rituals have you embraced? (Select all that apply.)

Exfoliating: 17%

Moisturizing: 24%

Plucking/waxing: 16%

Manscaping: 36%

Using concealer: 6%

Getting facials or using masks: 6%

Manis/pedis: 10%

None of the above: 37%

Do you think Suri is growing up too fast?

Yes—she shouldn't be wearing heels and lipstick: 21%

No—her parents are doing a good job, as far as I can tell: 14%

Who the hell is Suri?: 65%

Photo: Getty Images

A committed relationship sounds like:

Nothing I'm looking for right now: 32%

Everything I'm looking for right now: 68%

Would it bother you if your wife or girlfriend made $100,000 more than you?

Yes: 16%

No: 84%

When the cat's away, the mouse:

Gets tanked and stays out till all hours: 19%

Has the guys over for the game and makes as much noise as he pleases: 23%

Sits at home in his boxers eating Hot Pockets: 25%

Really misses the cat and wants her home now: 33%

It's been 10 minutes, and she doesn't seem to be close to climax. What are you thinking about?

The exact odds of the Cubs ever winning the World Series again or anything else to slow me down: 14%

What else I can do for her: 62%

Ow, cramp!: 10%

That I can't wait. She'll get hers next time: 14%

Have you ever bought package-enhancing underwear or stuffed something down there to fake out a girl?

Yes: 8%

No: 92%

When you look at a woman in a strip club, you wish:

That she would dance for you: 25%

That she would have sex with you: 45%

That she could find another job: 30%

If you're hesitant to commit, what's holding you back?

I want to be making more money before I settle down: 46%

I want freedom to hang with my friends: 21%

I want to sow more oats. A lot more oats: 12%

Honestly, I'm holding out for someone better: 21%

If you could borrow a woman's body for a day, you would most want to:

Play with your boobs all day long: 15%

Find out what a female orgasm feels like: 48%

Eat and drink for free at ladies' nights: 12%

Hang out in a women's bathroom and get every secret possible: 7%

Hang out in a women's locker room and just watch—duh!: 18%

Imagine you can do it in only one position for the rest of your life. Which do you pick?

Doggy-style: 31%

Missionary: 19%

Standing up: 2%

Her on top: 39%

Other: 9%

If you could get a beer with just one of these people, who would it be?

President Obama: 22%

Mark Sanchez: 5%

Jay-Z: 8%

Jon Stewart: 15%

Mark Zuckerberg: 5%

Megan Fox: 45%

Photo: Getty Images

You're out at a bar, and a woman walks up to you. The best thing she can say is:

"Hi, I'm _________ .": 64%

"I'm dying to get out of here.": 13%

"Can I buy you a drink?": 23%

Her Facebook profile says she has a tattoo. Where do you most hope it is?

Her hip/bikini area: 32%

Her lower back: 24%

Her foot or ankle: 14%

Her wrist: 4%

Her arm: 5%

Nowhere, she lost me at tattoo: 20%

Guys, tell us: Which is better?

Kim Kardashian's butt: 63%

Pippa Middleton's butt: 37%


A baseball cap: 84%

A fascinator: 16%


Your button-down on her: 56%

Your sports shirt on her: 44%

What do you think about most in a single day?

Sex: 38%

Food: 5%

My sports team: 4%

My appearance: 8%

Work: 14%

Money: 31%

OK, so it's sex. (Shocked.) Could you be more specific, please?

Sex with someone I just saw on the sidewalk/at work/in a magazine: 32%

A sex move I want a woman (any woman) to do to me: 14%

A sex memory from my past: 15%

Sex with my girlfriend/wife tonight: 39%

Glamour's man survey goes way back.

We published our first one in 1995. Have men changed since then? Hell, yes! And also...not really. Take a look.

Guys are kinda over the fake-boob thing...

If it were painless, safe and free, would you encourage your girlfriend/wife to get breast implants?

1995: 55% said yes.

2012: 29% said yes.

...They're far more likely to elect a woman...

Would you consider voting for a female president?

1995: 29% said yes.

2012: 74% said yes.

...Yet they're more traditional.

Would you insist that your wife take your last name?

1995: 24% said yes.

2012: 42% said yes.

And some things never change!

Which would you rather be: 5'2" tall with a seven-inch penis or 6'2" with a three-inch penis?

1995: 62% said 5'2" with a seven-inch penis.

2012: 67% said 5'2" with a seven-inch penis.

And some things never change!

Would you rather marry a woman 20 years older than you or a woman 20 pounds heavier than you?

1995: 53% said 20 years older.

2012: 51% said 20 years older.

And some things never change!

Which scares you more: the threat of going bald or the threat of tsunamis, tornadoes and terrorism?

1995: 66% said the threat of tsunamis, tornadoes and terrorism.

2012: 65% said the threat of tsunamis, tornadoes and terrorism.

And some things never change!

Have you ever measured your penis?

1995: 55% said yes.

2012: 63% said yes.

Be honest: Would you rather...

Lose a limb: 27%

Lose a testicle: 73%

Be honest: Would you rather...

Have no hair: 74%

Have Trump hair: 26%

Be honest: Would you rather...

Work with Hillary Clinton for a week: 52%

Work for Michele Bachmann for a week: 48%

Photo: Getty Images

Be honest: Would you rather...

Have a one-night stand with sexy Rihanna: 39%

Have a three-way with two girls you know: 61%

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